Saying “no” is one of the most common things I see women struggle with when it comes to setting strong boundaries.
As a result, women often derail their plans and burn their precious energy taking on tasks that they have ZERO interest in doing.
But here’s the thing: You don’t have to say yes or scramble for an excuse. “NO” is a COMPLETE SENTENCE.
In this episode of Power Play, I discuss my own strategy for saying “NO” without the guilt.
What strategies do YOU use to set firm boundaries?
One of the things that we hear a lot about is: ‘I don’t know how to say no, or I struggle to say no, or I struggled to put down a boundary to and I feel pressured to say yes to do something that I actually don’t want to do.’.
Totally get it. It’s normal. And I want to make sure that you understand something and that you’re really clear about something. You don’t have to give a reason. No is a complete sentence.
So, if you say: ‘no I can’t do this, or no I’m not going to commit to this, or no this isn’t for me,’ that’s enough. You do not have to go ahead and give a reason for why. And in fact, the more that we justify ourselves, the less powerful that no becomes. Not only to the people that we’re saying no to, but most importantly to ourselves.
One of the things that I have had to learn to do in order to say powerful no’s, is literally I’ll say no, and then I’ll smile. And I allow the silence to be there.
If I’m saying no to somebody on the phone, I might say ‘no, that’s not going to work for me.’ And literally the act of putting my hand over my mouth helps me to remember and it reminds me that saying no is a complete sentence in and of itself. You don’t have to give other people a reason for why you’re saying no. Your no is powerful enough all by itself.
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